First thanks everyone for suggestions and your help. As far as I know our integrator is the only one that can call Genetec. Also getting the software upgraded is about like pulling teeth. We was at 5.2 sr10 before they decided to reinstall windows, but had some kind of issue getting sr10 installed after the reinstall so went with sr8 instead. I would love to have 5.3, really like some of the new features it brings, but we are stuck with what we have.
I do have the out of process media component on with all in the same process off and Components per process at 6. I found this setting last year, it did help, but still there are issues. I have played around with the Components per process setting some, but if anyone has a suggestion I am open to try it.