Ok so update on this now, after we finished gutting our office equipment. I determined that it was the router, it was a very old router that used scripting and other things to forward ports. I set them up with a new router thats got all the bells and whistles.
I am able to access the dvr login page remotely now, however, I cannot login. It says "Login Failed!" when I try to login. Ive created a new username and password, gave it all the authority and enabled it, and still get login failed with it. Any ideas on what the problem is?