Hi ytsejam_cst.
My experience with Stream Media Server (SMS) was initially pleasant.
Just run the SMS application and you will see it's log window in the notification tray.
Run the iVMS Client software. Enable a SMS, then Add the SMS, then click Configure and you should be able to select cameras from a list.
Once the SMS is connected to those cameras, the Client and the Storage Server will both automatically use the SMS rather than direct connection.
You will have to reconnect the live view (in the Client) to take effect, or exit and restart the Client.
If working properly, the SMS log window will show eg. 2 incoming streams (for 2 cameras) and 4 outgoing streams (eg. Client + Storage server accessing).
You should find the latest documentation PDF was installed with the iVMS software.
Hope that helps.